Hard is Easier, Easy Never Ends

With a few foundational posts about the nature of anger, it may be time to move to what I would call "the work" or the way to pull up causal roots of the chosen response of anger. The remedy, like many of Life's truths, is a paradox. Instead of resisting anger, using willpower, or avoiding it through distraction techniques (affirmations, meditation and so on), you are to purposely sit in your anger (or any of the actual feelings that are at the center of anger, namely fear and sadness).

The work, is to sit for about ten minutes a day (you can work up to this), and purposely have your angry thoughts. You would look for fear and sadness, not push it away. And once you are feeling these emotions, you let them wash over your entire being. You allow the energy to fully exist. You won't really DO anything. You show yourself---and your nervous system---that the best way to get rid of an emotion, is to let it be fully expressed. Therein lies the paradox.

Now, you don't go in with this agenda. That's where the work comes in. You must allow this feeling to enter and be fully realized, seeing at the end that you are not only not dead, but not even stressed. In fact, you feel better. But if you go into this sitting with that expectation, than the expectation becomes the sensation, and you'll make no progress. Sorry about that, but that's how those darn Universal Truths tend to be.

Anger will not harm you. Nor will fear or sadness. The suppression of these may, however! Prove that to yourself. Do it now. Remember reading about it isn't the same as doing it. You'll stay stuck forever if that's all you do here.

So in conclusion, you aren't trying to feel better. You're trying to get better at feeling.

Got it?