How To STOP Negative/Stressful Thinking Once and For All.This is A Must See!!
Posted by Prince Ea on Monday, October 26, 2015
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Tuesday, October 27, 2015
How to Control Your Mind (and Your Anger)
Prince EA says it better than I can. Please give this great video a quick look:
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See more vids on my website Work Stress Solutions.Com
Monday, October 19, 2015
What's the Matter With Anger?
Since this is my blog, I'd like to use this post to discuss how I REALLY feel about anger. Instead of trying to find a remedy for it, I'd like to ask: What's wrong with it in the first place? I lose my temper, and then I'm me again. I didn't kill anyone, I didn't even hit anyone, so why do so many people tend to avoid me or drop away completely when I get angry?
They don't do that when I cry. They don't do that when I sulk. So what is it that makes us repel with anger? Why do we judge it so harshly? Is it conditioning from our childhood? Were we punished more harshly when we responded in this way?
I'd like to make anger acceptable. Especially in women. It seems to me that a man is defined as strong or assertive when angered and a woman is called one word: Bitch.
They don't do that when I cry. They don't do that when I sulk. So what is it that makes us repel with anger? Why do we judge it so harshly? Is it conditioning from our childhood? Were we punished more harshly when we responded in this way?
I'd like to make anger acceptable. Especially in women. It seems to me that a man is defined as strong or assertive when angered and a woman is called one word: Bitch.
Thursday, October 15, 2015
Sit In It
There's a little known work called The Presence Process. It's a program developed by Michael Brown after battling with a chronic pain disorder that he claims allowed his body and mind to heal itself. It simply teaches you to SIT in your feelings. When you feel sad, angry, thrilled sit quietly, let it absorb your body and feel it fully. Without agenda, without expectation, let the feelings consume you. They WILL dissipate. It's counterintuitive, but it works.
Most of us resist our feelings, try to replace them with "better" ones or drive them away (temporarily) with substances. This doesn't work, at least not for long. The Presence Process DOES work however.
You can buy the book and work the ten-week program, but I simply invite you try finding a quiet place to sit and breathe and let feeling percolate up and observe the sensation in the body. It won't kill you, in fact in will make you stronger.
Most of us resist our feelings, try to replace them with "better" ones or drive them away (temporarily) with substances. This doesn't work, at least not for long. The Presence Process DOES work however.
You can buy the book and work the ten-week program, but I simply invite you try finding a quiet place to sit and breathe and let feeling percolate up and observe the sensation in the body. It won't kill you, in fact in will make you stronger.
Friday, October 2, 2015
Expressing Your Anger Doesn't Eliminate Your Anger
According to Dr. Albert Ellis, just the opposite. In expressing our anger, we flare our nervous system and create neurotransmitters and adrenaline receptors that, later, beg to be fed. In other words, they want you to get angry again so they can live.
Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, a fancy term for changing your thoughts, is Dr. Ellis' solution. Here's more:
REBT is an action-oriented approach to managing cognitive, emotional, and behavioral disturbances.
According to REBT, it is largely our thinking about events that leads to emotional and behavioral upset. With an emphasis on the present, individuals are taught how to examine and challenge their unhelpful thinking which creates unhealthy emotions and self-defeating/self-sabotaging behaviors.
REBT is a practical approach to assist individuals in coping with and overcoming adversity as well as achieving goals. REBT places a good deal of its focus on the present. REBT addresses attitudes, unhealthy emotions (e.g., unhealthy anger, depression, anxiety, guilt, etc.) and maladaptive behaviors (e.g., procrastination, addictive behaviors, aggression, unhealthy eating, sleep disturbance, etc.) that can negatively impact life satisfaction. REBT practitioners work closely with individuals, seeking to help identify their individual set of beliefs (attitudes, expectations and personal rules) that frequently lead to emotional distress.
REBT then provides a variety of methods to help people reformulate their dysfunctional beliefs into more sensible, realistic and helpful ones by employing the powerful REBT technique called “disputing.” Ultimately, REBT helps individuals to develop a philosophy and approach to living that can increase their effectiveness and satisfaction at work, in living successfully with others, in parenting and educational settings, in making our community and environment healthier, and in enhancing their own emotional health and personal welfare.
I'll provide the HOW later. If you'd like to explore this on your own, click here.
Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, a fancy term for changing your thoughts, is Dr. Ellis' solution. Here's more:
REBT is an action-oriented approach to managing cognitive, emotional, and behavioral disturbances.
According to REBT, it is largely our thinking about events that leads to emotional and behavioral upset. With an emphasis on the present, individuals are taught how to examine and challenge their unhelpful thinking which creates unhealthy emotions and self-defeating/self-sabotaging behaviors.
REBT is a practical approach to assist individuals in coping with and overcoming adversity as well as achieving goals. REBT places a good deal of its focus on the present. REBT addresses attitudes, unhealthy emotions (e.g., unhealthy anger, depression, anxiety, guilt, etc.) and maladaptive behaviors (e.g., procrastination, addictive behaviors, aggression, unhealthy eating, sleep disturbance, etc.) that can negatively impact life satisfaction. REBT practitioners work closely with individuals, seeking to help identify their individual set of beliefs (attitudes, expectations and personal rules) that frequently lead to emotional distress.
REBT then provides a variety of methods to help people reformulate their dysfunctional beliefs into more sensible, realistic and helpful ones by employing the powerful REBT technique called “disputing.” Ultimately, REBT helps individuals to develop a philosophy and approach to living that can increase their effectiveness and satisfaction at work, in living successfully with others, in parenting and educational settings, in making our community and environment healthier, and in enhancing their own emotional health and personal welfare.
I'll provide the HOW later. If you'd like to explore this on your own, click here.
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